I've always been a caring person. I keep my friends close and care deeply about what happens to them. I borderline fear letting them down. I tend to care too much, and sometimes it feels misplaced. (I think theres more than a little "people-pleaser" in me.)
But, I find, when I take these things to heart, it really wears me out. I feel it physically. No one seems to understand the physical ramifications of what I'm feeling. I learned long ago crying would oddly be a release and a stressor at the same time. I really struggle with my emotions and it literally hurts. To top it off, I struggle with depression. I've beaten it in the past, but I seem so much more prone to it these days.
I guess, my question, to get to the point, is how do i deal with this? Is there a way to care about people without my own physical pain? Is it a failing in me to manage my emotions? Is the only option to save me pain to stop caring?
I don't know if I'm making sense........but I'm hoping someone out there will understand where i'm coming from.
And got this reply:
First off..Accept Who you are, and What you are about...putting yourself out there as Real will attract Like people...
I had an Odd {for me} experience about 5 Weeks ago...I had a Dr. that easily showed Compassion...this is No shit, I cried...Relief, Release...yea...and I am fairly thick skinned...Emotional yes...but I was shocked at the Physical Emotionality of it all...Just being shown a bit of Comapssion brought out in Me.
Depression can be deadly...it is Oddly comfortable...Unlike Anxiety...and that makes it even harder to Pull away from...but...it CAN be Done...get your bag of tricks together...your "I Feel good Bag"..Inside that Bag, keep all the things that make ya Feel Good...that Flood your Blood with the Feel Good Hormones...
Dancing is my top trick...works 80 percent of the Time...putting on my good Old Rock & roll...yea...Floods me with the good stuff...
it is Also important to deal with any issues that may be making you Depressed...not always an easy thing, cause it is not always easily identifiable...but search it out...deal with it...and but it in a Box...way in the back of ur brain somewhere...Unhappy at work, relationships, location where ya live...missing people...cloudy weather can set many of us off...yea...the list can get quite Long...learb to Counter act those bad negative thought with good happy things...this does work...is a neat trick !!
You are a sensitive Soul !! nothing wrong with that !! use it to your Advantage !! alot of people can use people just like you in their Lives !! with all the rush to the finish line it is refreshing to see Compassion really does still exist !! YeaY !! but learning to back up a bit...not to overstep ur place is also Needed !! keeps People from Feeling Smothered...and you from easily getting your feelings hurt !! No Need to Stop...just back up a few steps...
Hugs !!
Has me thinking:
- Who AM I? I guess compassionate and caring is up on the list, but I think the only reason those come to mind is because of what I'm going through emotionally at the moment.
- What's in my "Feel Good Bag"?
- Singing, obviously
- Reading. Scripture, Christian novels, (and more i'm sure I'll add to this list later)
- Swimming
- Free Writing
- Designing
- Needlepoint or Jewelry Making
- What things depress me? What needs to be shoved in that box and given to God?
